We are officially married couple by now. Hafis is officially the husband and the head of the family with Dita as the wife. Thank you for all of you who care to congratulate us, and most importantly, care to pray for us.
The ship has sailed. The journey has begun.
By the way, this is Dita, the wife, speaking.
Before marriage, my now-husband (then still a stranger, hahaha) kindly gave me a lot of presents: a box++ full of my favorite things. The best gift I found in the package was a pile of books, which I think he carefully picked and presented to me. The one that attracted my attention was a book titled “Lapis-lapis Keberkahan” written by Salim A. Fillah. In English, it translates to “Layers of Blessings”.
The whole book seems to discuss about one word: blessing. I must admit I haven’t finished the reading yet but to be honest I was intrigued by how it relates to marriage. Moreover, when I browsed the internet for wedding knick-knacks (well, souvenirs, dresses, you mention it), I stumbled upon one sentence of prayer. Moreover, I heard that exact prayer multiple times during the wedding procession, making me very curious about what is the meaning behind the prayer.
بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ وَبَارَكَ عَلَيْكَ وَجَمَعَ بَيْنَكُمَا فِي خَيْرٍ
Literally it would mean “May Allah bless for you, and may He bless on you, and combine both of you in good (works).” (source)
There is a small note on how the prayer is conveyed two times with slightly different style. First one is blessings to you the second one is blessing on you. However, is it really only a small note?
It turns out that preposition اللام /laam/ is positioned in the same sentence with preposition على /’alaa/, اللام would refer to positive/good things and على will refer to negative/bad things. Therefore, more contextually, the prayer translates to “May Allah bless you during positive/good times, and may He bless you during negative/bad times, and combine both of you in good (works).”
This is a small reminder on how marriage will not only a bed of roses every night, but sometimes storm can strike and our faith for each other would be challenged, just like what John Legend described in his Ordinary People song (though my husband is very likely not aware of such song).
Therefore, our homework for our marriage would be on how to manage to pursue His blessings during good times and bad times.
On that (I mean blessings), maybe I should finish the book first, as soon as possible.
Please wish us blessings! ❤ ❤